Navigating through the first couple of weeks and months as a new mom can be challenging. And if you're here, then you probably need some extra help getting through the tougher times. So here I have 30 postpartum affirmations to lift your spirits and help you cope with newly gained motherhood.
I think we can all agree when I say that nothing will ever change your life more than becoming a parent. The postpartum stage is surely a ride. It can be everything you imagined, from the baby smell to the cuddles. But it also can be anything you never thought of, from emotional rollercoasters to physical challenges.
I think mothers are divided into two groups. Some enjoy the newborn phase, and others can't wait for it to end. I personally would count myself to the latter group of moms. Unfortunately, I never got myself to really enjoy postpartum or the newborn days as a new mother.
Let's just say it like it is: IT IS FREAKING HARD.
The sleep deprivation, the anxiety of taking care of a human 24/7, the emotional highs and lows. Like honestly, who wouldn't go a little bit insane? And then you have those little conversations with yourself that can really put you down.
"Why does my baby seem so much harder than the other babies?"
"Why does nobody help me?"
It is really difficult to keep your negative feelings in check. Those inner conversations that we have and all those unanswered questions we ask ourselves can drain our energy and mood. We are already prone to going to dark places, and that is why positive affirmations are more important than ever!
That is why I have collected the 50 most inspiring postpartum affirmations in this article for you. Make it your daily routine to say them out loud and create new positive connections in your brain. Spoken words are more powerful than thoughts. Your mind will thank you.
This article covers:
1. What Is a Positive Affirmation?
So what are affirmations anyway?
An Affirmation is a positive statement that you repeatedly say out loud to overcome negative thinking and self-sabotaging. Thereby, you state them to be the truth and create a new positive mindset about your life. According to the National Science Foundation, the human mind goes through 45k-51k different thoughts per day on average, and guess what: 80% of those thoughts are negative.
A negative thought is always stronger than a positive thought if you don't fight against it. Our brain is naturally wired to think negatively to prepare for the worst-case scenario. It's a simple fight-and-flight technique to save us from potential harm.
2. Do Affirmations Even Work?
A couple of years ago, I was the most skeptical person when it came to positive vibes. But as I was actively working on my mental health, I came to the realization that your mind is really what it hears. That's when affirmations come to play.
They help motivate and encourage you to be the person you want to be and reach the goals you set for yourself. They help you embrace the good things in life and don't leave space for all the negative thoughts.
3. How Can Mothers Benefit From Affirmations?
I will be completely honest with you. I have never been a more confused person than since becoming a mother. When you become a new parent, you are thrown into a jungle of emotions, thoughts, and feelings that we are going through is enormous. Let alone having gone through pregnancy, birth, and now the postpartum period.
You're jumping from one thought to another, doing one thing and thinking about something else. You can feel the whole spectrum of emotions like love, anger, and regret in just 5 minutes. If you and I weren't mothers, I am pretty sure they would call us crazy.
That is why affirmations are so important for mothers. They help keep you grounded and your thoughts in check. They help you regulate your emotions. They will help you to feel better and more confident in your role as a mother. They can teach you to have more compassion for yourself and focus on the positive things.
We will all have our crappy, low-mood days. Mornings that are just stressful. And that is ok. It's part of life. The key is to accept it and move on. And affirmations can help us with exactly that.
So dear mama, I hope that with this list of positive postpartum affirmations, you can find the strength, motivation, and self love you might be looking for.
4. 50 Best Positive Affirmations For Mothers
1. I am going through the most significant change in my life, and I am allowed time to adjust.
2. I am giving myself permission to rest.
3. I will ask for help if I need it. It is ok to let others help me.
4. I am grateful for what I achieved and what I have.
5. I believe in my abilities and myself.
6. I am the best mom for my child, and I am the mom my child needs.
7. I am patient with myself, and I am patient with my baby.
8. I accept my baby the way they are.
9. I am allowed to learn.
10. I am sad and angry, and that is ok. I forgive myself and move on.
11. It is ok to be sensitive. This is a sensitive time.
12. I still have my own identity besides being a mother.
13. I am allowed to have time to myself.
14. I am allowed to assign tasks to others without feeling guilty. I don't need to do it all by myself.
15. I will never regret spending too much time with my baby.
16. I am thankful for being able to stay with my baby.
17. I breathe out the stress and breathe in relaxation.
18. I accept and welcome offered help from friends and family.
19. I will not turn down help.
20. I pay attention to my needs as an individual.
21. The days may feel long sometimes, but this is just a little fraction of my life.
22. Motherhood will change me to become a better person and a better version of myself.
23. I can meet the challenges of motherhood with resilience, strength, and patience.
24. I am the person my child trusts and loves the most.
25. I am choosing to be happy and positive today.
26. I will be fully present in the moment and will not worry about the past or future.
27. Motherhood is not fully what I expected it to be, but that is absolutely ok. Nothing can prepare you for motherhood.
28. I am learning as I grow.
29. My family and my friends love me and support me.
30. I am calm, and I am the source of calm for my baby.
31. I am full of love, peace, and compassion for myself.
32. I don't need to be a perfect mother. No one is a perfect mother.
33. Everyone has their motherhood struggles. Some just hide it better.
34. I listen to my body, and its needs.
35. I choose to have a good day today, no matter what comes.
36. I am choosing happiness today.
37. I am grateful for the family I have.
38. Parents are different, and I will parent my way.
39. It is ok to make mistakes, and I will continue to learn.
40. I am allowed to set boundaries for myself.
41. I am proud of myself and everything I have achieved.
42. The time I invest in my children today will make them great people in the future.
43. My baby's behavior has nothing to do with me, and I don't take it personally.
44. My feelings and emotions are valid.
45. I am doing enough, and I don't need to do it all. No one is expecting me to do it all.
46. I am meeting all the needs of my child.
47. My body is stronger than it has ever been.
48. Every day will get easier.
49. Today is only one day. There are still plenty of days to come.
50. I am choosing to see everything I am doing "right", not the things I am doing "wrong".
5. What Else You Can Do To Make New Motherhood Better
Make your affirmations visible
Write down your affirmations and place them somewhere you can see them often, e.g., on the mirror or refrigerator.
Read them intentionally
Don't just go over your affirmations but read them intentionally. Pause and give yourself time to really digest what the affirmation means to you.
Identify your triggers
Whether it's your baby's cries or your self doubt that is dragging you down, identify your triggers and repeat your affirmations whenever you find something triggering you.
Pause and take your time
Our brains are wired to respond immediately. That is why we often say or respond in ways that we alter regret. Become the master of your reactions. Pause before you allow, say, feel or react in any way.
We should love ourselves the minute we are born. But unfortunately, we all faced events that grew our self-doubt. But you can learn to love and accept yourself. The key is to practice every day a little bit.
6. Final Thoughts
Being a mother will strain you in many different ways, and feeling better is not achieved within a day or two. Sometimes parenting is all about survival. But get through each day the best you can and practice your positive habits and daily affirmations, and I promise you will get there.